What You Can’t Stop
Sometimes a force comes at you so hard, that you can’t stop it, no matter what you do. Whether it’s a storm, an accident that comes out of nowhere, or someone who suddenly attacks you, a force can flatten you.
Even though an event like this can make you feel powerless and helpless, the next steps after the event don’t need to be that way. The American Psychological Association suggests these steps:
1. Connect with supportive people. Don’t try to take the next steps alone. Find helpful people who care about you and will travel the ups and downs with you during your next steps.
2. Avoid getting stuck. Yes, a horrible situation happened, but don’t get stuck ruminating on it over and over. Accept that change happens to everyone, and you can find your way, even if the way isn’t clear.
3. Take care of yourself. You’re traveling a road that’s not easy. Embrace your feelings and needs. Do healthy activities that help you exercise, eat healthy, relax, and keep you going.
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us,” wrote Joseph Campbell in The Power of Myth. Getting flattened by something hard is one thing. Taking the next step when you’re ready to get up is another.